Saying “No”

Do at times you feel obligatory to say “Yes”?

Is it difficult to say “No”? And having to say “Yes” put you in an uncomfortable situation?

It is important to respect your self space, set your boundaries and listen to your self.

Another part in you tells you that saying “No” will make you look bad, you will miss out on friendship, on opportunities, etc. Recognise it is just an Ego, telling you not to lose your importance.

So, your “Yes” is not the whole hearted one, it stresses you and you feel drained.

On the other hand, if you have mastered listening to your Self, you are respecting your Self-Space and Boundaries and you have an option to say “No”. This option itself gives power to your “Yes”.

Your “Yes” is then whole-hearted, and it will energize you and you’ll enjoy contributing.

Paradoxically, knowing how to say “No” gives much more power to your “Yes”.

Observe inside you – your “No” and your “Yes”, you will know what needs to be done.

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  1. This is a problem I struggle with. Often times I try to say no, but so many are used to me saying yes,that my No’s are completely ignored. I’m working on being firm with my No’s and if all else fails I’ll stop answering my phone…lol.

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    • I know it is difficult when it has become part of your being. If you ignore and stop answering your phone, there are chances of guilt creeping in. You have to learn to be firm and assertive with your “No”. If they are ignored that does not mean that you still end up doing what has been asked of you. Do as much as you are comfortable with. And others will also learn to accept your “No”. First your learn to be assertive.

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